Sunday, July 06, 2008

Sigh... I need a new extended family.


Usually I use this space for funny observation, or sentiment, but this is just blowing off steam. This is great steaming pile of "I don't deserve this!" I am the oldest of seven. Three of my sibs have had serious drug problems. One of them is a literal kleptomaniac. The two that are really trying to do things the right way are being completely ignored, or worse, my dad picks fights with them, telling them all the things they are doing wrong, while the ones with severe problems are coddled, or the efforts to succeed are sabotaged by my dad. When I try to take a stand, and say, "I don't want someone who continually steals in my house," or "I don't want my daughter looking up to a drug addict," do you think my dad supports that? No, he makes sure I look like the biggest bitch on earth. You know the sister I spent 6 hours driving to rehab? My dad went and got her from rehab without even telling me, and brought her to Vegas. How is that good for her? Why didn't he call me? Ask my advice, or ask me to keep her here? Because I think he likes when his kids are unhealthy. I really do. My one brother who lives in Temecula and is working and going to school, and never does drugs, is an object of rage for my father. My dad has an extra car, and instead of letting this brother use it, he brought it back to Vegas for my sister, who has been caught stealing, doesn't have a job, or a drivers licence. I am so sick of trying so hard to be who I need for my family, only to have my father actively trying to keep his children oppressed. I give advice, and tough love, and soft love, and I have someone undoing everything I do. I am so enraged right now, I don't know whether to cry, or scream.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

burrnaise said...Keep doing what you're doing. It's the right thing. I'll be praying for you. Sounds like your dad is a world class enabler. It's got to be frustrating!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Geez...what a nightmare. I don't know what to say. Times change, people rarely do. You're doing all you can. P has a sickness and a God complex and a million other things that make him beyond difficult for the people close to him. You can't take resposibility for the Cilla thing, she's a grown up, she should know better. It is disappointing. Don't know what else to say, except, I love you and I am on team B. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo (Take Care of Yourself and Your kids and hubby and know that you make a difference in their lives.)